HAPPY HALLOWEEN
It has been about a week or so since I last wrote. This past week hasn't been to bad. Both A and G did really well this week. Don't get me wrong they had their moments, but nothing like it had been. I myself had a very busy week and actually got to do a few things for myself. I have found since becoming a mom that I don't really do much for myself any more and this past week it was pretty much me time. Friday was def. the busiest day all week. From having a meeting about getting A some in home ABA therapy, to two class parties and then trying to find a couple more decorations I didn't get a chance to sit down and relax till later that night.
This weekend has been a bit of a rough one. I don't know what it is about the weekends that make them act up so bad. I think I must be one of the only parents who wish that school was 7 days a week. I know the routine with school has alot to do with it and I can't match that routine to a T. I try to stick to a routine here at home, but it does get difficult, esp. with their daddy being gone. I know alot of their behaviors have to do with him being gone and I honestly don't know what to do about it.
Tonight we did go trick or treating but after every house we went to A would ask " Are we going home now?", like he didn't even want to be trick or treating. We lasted maybe 30 min then came home. They got enough candy, def. not like they had in the past, but thats ok cause most of the candy went to waste.
Here is to hoping that this week will be a good one.
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Sat. Oct 23, 2010
As I sit here this evening writing this my three kids are sitting in the family room playing with the boys trains. They are currently getting along, no fighting, screaming, crying or whining. Don't know how long that will last.
Wish I could say that today was a good day, but it was far from it. Our weekends have pretty much consisted in us staying home and not venturing out any where.It is hard to go out with all three kids knowing that at any moment either of the boys could go into complete meltdown mode (this is thanks to the autism) over the smallest thing. I know that I will end up chasing one of them, thankfully the baby isn't walking yet, cause they don't want to listen or have decided that they want to do their own thing. I know they don't understand what can happen and that scares and frustrates me even more. So with the fact we spend our weekends couped up in the house makes things so much harder.
I knew today was going to be a long and hard day when the baby decided she wanted to wake up at 6 this morning and not go back to sleep. So that means an early morning for me. I brought her back to bed with me since I was so not ready to even deal with anything else. The boys didn't get up till about 7:30, but the moment they came in my room they started their fighting. G my youngest started in with his whining and crying. When he starts that so early it really isn't going to be a good day. The boys started to fight over everything from one standing in front of the tv to one of them is taking the covers. They left my room and I thought they went into the play room. Boy was I wrong with that. I found them in the bathroom with the door closed. They wanted to brush their teeth but instead got toothpaste all over the sink and counter and they were messing with the mouth rinse. We finally managed to get downstairs where I heard them whining about breakfast and then started making demands on what they wanted. Last time I checked I wasn't running a restaurant here. Couldn't even make it through breakfast without G having a major meltdown and being sent to the corner for a time out. I can't even count how many times he was sent to time out before lunch. Lunch wasn't to bad, G and A fought over a couple of books while eating. Of course putting food in them def. fuels the arguing and bad behavior. It wasn't long after lunch that G ended up in time out again. You would think the kid would get it by now that his behavior and not listening will land him in time out, but he is just as stubborn as his daddy and just doesn't learn. Maybe one of these days before I completely lose my sanity he will get it. Decided it was nap time (or at least time to lay down and rest for a bit) around 2, so putting S down for her nap was no problem, she went right out. Let the boys watch a video in the play room, that didn't last long. By 3:30 or so G ended up in his room and was told to take a nap. I knew he really needed one cause of how he was acting. He finally fell asleep and slept for a while.
Now it is evening and so far things haven't been to bad. S is about ready to get her jammies on and get a bottle then to bed. The boys will be right behind her, but I know that is going to be a battle with G since he doesn't like to go to bed. The kid comes up with every excuse as to why he can't go to bed yet.
Here's to hoping that tomorrow will be a better day, but I doubt it.
Wish I could say that today was a good day, but it was far from it. Our weekends have pretty much consisted in us staying home and not venturing out any where.It is hard to go out with all three kids knowing that at any moment either of the boys could go into complete meltdown mode (this is thanks to the autism) over the smallest thing. I know that I will end up chasing one of them, thankfully the baby isn't walking yet, cause they don't want to listen or have decided that they want to do their own thing. I know they don't understand what can happen and that scares and frustrates me even more. So with the fact we spend our weekends couped up in the house makes things so much harder.
I knew today was going to be a long and hard day when the baby decided she wanted to wake up at 6 this morning and not go back to sleep. So that means an early morning for me. I brought her back to bed with me since I was so not ready to even deal with anything else. The boys didn't get up till about 7:30, but the moment they came in my room they started their fighting. G my youngest started in with his whining and crying. When he starts that so early it really isn't going to be a good day. The boys started to fight over everything from one standing in front of the tv to one of them is taking the covers. They left my room and I thought they went into the play room. Boy was I wrong with that. I found them in the bathroom with the door closed. They wanted to brush their teeth but instead got toothpaste all over the sink and counter and they were messing with the mouth rinse. We finally managed to get downstairs where I heard them whining about breakfast and then started making demands on what they wanted. Last time I checked I wasn't running a restaurant here. Couldn't even make it through breakfast without G having a major meltdown and being sent to the corner for a time out. I can't even count how many times he was sent to time out before lunch. Lunch wasn't to bad, G and A fought over a couple of books while eating. Of course putting food in them def. fuels the arguing and bad behavior. It wasn't long after lunch that G ended up in time out again. You would think the kid would get it by now that his behavior and not listening will land him in time out, but he is just as stubborn as his daddy and just doesn't learn. Maybe one of these days before I completely lose my sanity he will get it. Decided it was nap time (or at least time to lay down and rest for a bit) around 2, so putting S down for her nap was no problem, she went right out. Let the boys watch a video in the play room, that didn't last long. By 3:30 or so G ended up in his room and was told to take a nap. I knew he really needed one cause of how he was acting. He finally fell asleep and slept for a while.
Now it is evening and so far things haven't been to bad. S is about ready to get her jammies on and get a bottle then to bed. The boys will be right behind her, but I know that is going to be a battle with G since he doesn't like to go to bed. The kid comes up with every excuse as to why he can't go to bed yet.
Here's to hoping that tomorrow will be a better day, but I doubt it.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Introduction
As the wife a US Marine and the mother of three, two who have the diagnosis of autism, my life is far from normal or easy. In the eight years I have been married to my husband this is our second deployment, but the first since having any of our children. I knew this was going to be different then our last deployment with the fact that now I have my three little blessings to take care of instead of just myself. Throw in the fact that two of them are autistic and that makes things even more difficult. It is hard enough telling a child that their daddy has to leave and you don't really know when they will be back and you won't be able to see them or even talk to them every day, but with an autistic child it takes it to a whole other level. My boys may be 6 and 4 but developmentally they are younger then that. They don't comprehend or even process things the same as their "normal" counter parts do. This blog is my way of getting out my frustrations, away to vent and relieve some of the day to day stress that my family is dealing with during this deployment. In the end my husband will make it home and we will be a whole family again.
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